Arrive.
Settle in, set the container, meet the group. Begin with the body — learning to feel what happens before the mind catches up.
Why a Retreat
Some skills can be learned in an hour. Most can't.
The work we teach — recognizing your patterns under pressure, regulating your nervous system, staying with yourself in hard conversations — is body-level. It has to be practiced in real time, with real men, on real situations. And it has to be practiced more than once.
A retreat gives you:
- Time. Enough hours to slow down, settle in, and actually try things.
- Repetition. Each skill gets practiced multiple times, in different formats. Repetition is what builds the muscle memory.
- A container. A small group of men committed to the work, with confidentiality agreements that mean what's shared in the room stays in the room.
- Distance from your life. You can see your patterns more clearly when you step out of the situations that produce them.
The Experience
Part intensive training. Part summer camp.
A weekend of brotherhood most men never knew they needed — designed to be as restorative and enjoyable as it is transformative.
Expose the rules
Examine the beliefs shaping how you define strength, success, worth, and manhood.
Interrupt the pattern
Practice responding differently when you feel criticized, rejected, controlled, embarrassed, or disrespected.
Train for real conversations
Practice honest communication, boundaries, conflict, and repair using situations from your actual life.
Drop the image
Talk honestly with men who understand the demands of leadership, relationships, and entrepreneurship.
Leave your responsibilities behind
Step away from the business, family obligations, constant decisions, and people depending on you.
Enjoy the retreat
Share great meals. Swim. Work out. Play. Laugh. Rest. Recharge. Enjoy being somewhere beautiful with nothing to manage.
Build real brotherhood
Return home with practical tools, unforgettable memories, and relationships that continue beyond the weekend.
Sample Arc Day 1 · Evening Day 2 · Awareness Day 3 · Practice Day 4 · Morning
What three and a half days look like.
Every retreat is slightly different. Here's the shape of a typical 3.5-day format.
See it.
Trace the inherited rule you have been living by, and decode the protective pattern it produces when you feel threatened.
Do it.
The deepest day. Paired exercises on real situations. Coping tool drills. Staying with yourself when it's hard.
Take it home.
Repair practice, closing ritual, and one specific commitment for what you'll practice the week you get back.
Meals are shared. Mornings start slow. Evenings are open for rest, conversation, or solo time. We don't pack every minute — depth needs space.
The transformation you can expect
Become as skilled at leading yourself as you are at building your business.
When something hits a nerve
Recognize what takes over before anger, defensiveness, control, or withdrawal damages a relationship you value.
When something needs to be said
Communicate what you feel, need, and expect without attacking, shutting down, or giving your power away.
When success cannot define you
Know who you are beyond the company, the money, the recognition, and everyone who depends on you.
The result: return home with greater trust in yourself, a different way of handling your relationships, and a definition of manhood that does not disappear when life changes.
Reserve your spot
One retreat. Two ways to do it.
Your seat covers everything on-site — lodging, meals, materials and facilitation. Settle it in one go or spread it out. Tell us which suits you and we will send the dates and the details.
Simplest
Paid in full
One payment, done.
Settled once at registration. Locks your seat.
Book a free callPayment plan
Spread it out.
Spread out over the months leading up to the retreat. Same seat, same experience — flexibility to make it work.
Book a free callWhat's included
- 3.5 days of lodging
- All meals, on-site
- The full BTMB curriculum & facilitation
- All materials and take-home tools
- Small-group and paired practice work
- Post-retreat integration guidance
Not included: travel to the venue. Most men reach us by car or a short flight plus ground transport.
Interested in the In-Person Retreat?
Leave your email and we'll send you the details — dates, what's included, and what to expect. No obligation.
Logistics
The practical stuff.
- What's included
- Lodging, all meals, all programming and materials. Everything on-site is covered — no hidden extras.
- What's not included
- Travel to and from the venue. Most retreats are accessible by car or short flight + ground transport.
- What to bring
- Comfortable clothes for movement and reflection work. A journal. An open mind. Specific packing list goes out 30 days before each event.
- Dietary needs
- We accommodate most dietary restrictions. Tell us during registration.
- Accessibility
- If you have specific accessibility needs, reach out before booking and we'll work it out.
- Substances
- Retreats are alcohol-free. We don't use plant medicines or psychedelics — they have their place, but it's not in our work.
- Phones
- We ask participants to keep phones away during sessions. Not banned outside of programming time.
Reviews
What men say after a retreat.
Alano P. political science campaign manager
Your retreat really helped me with how an emotionally intelligent conversation should go.Read full review
Cameron D. senior IT cloud engineer
100% would do this again. It's cool just being able to connect with other guys and watch them grow.Read full review
Bash nonprofit executive
Being able to be vulnerable with other men in a way I've never been is what will keep me coming back.Read full review
Honest Disclaimer
Who this isn't for.
- Men in active mental health crisis. If you're suicidal or experiencing acute mental health emergency, please prioritize working with a licensed clinician. We're not a substitute.
- Men who want a quick fix. Patterns built over decades take real practice to shift. A retreat is a strong start, not the end.
- Men not ready to take responsibility. If you aren't ready to own your part in the changes you want to see in your life, this won't land — no matter how good the weekend is.
- Men who don't want to engage. "Pass" is always an option, but the men who get the most out of retreats are the ones who choose to participate.
- Men looking for advice or answers. We don't tell men what to do. We help them stay regulated enough to figure it out.
- Men in active addiction. If you're early in recovery and not yet stable, please get more support before adding intensive group work.
Ready to do the work?
Pick the next step that fits where you are.